He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to loveMartin Luther King Jr. We’ve all seen those short, inspirational quotes encouraging us to lead better lives. However well meaning they may be, the ones promoting forgiveness make me feel angry, hurt and belittled. You see, I'm unable to forgive … Continue reading Is Sexually Abusing A Child Forgivable?
It was a short and unremarkable tweet that drew my attention to just how many unanswered questions many victims of child sexual abuse carry. Flicking through my imaginary biography, paragraphs thick with guilt and shame have been cut out by those who betrayed me, naively thinking I wouldn’t notice. And whole pages are missing where … Continue reading Unanswered Questions
I've written this piece for the 'Survivors Of Abuse' campaign to raise awareness of grooming. I will never know what went on in my grandfather’s mind, but this is my interpretation of his thoughts from things he said and did. I apologise if you find this uncomfortable to read. There’s nothing really wrong with it. … Continue reading How To Normalise The Abnormal
Most people agree that it’s important that paedophiles are brought to justice for their crimes. However, after making a formal complaint to the police regarding my child molesting grandfather, I was left wondering whether it had been worth it. Firstly, the police investigation has left me deeply traumatised and I apologise if this makes for … Continue reading A Criminal Court Case. Is it worth it?